Deliberate Disciplemaking

Welcome to the CMF Training page on Deliberate Disciplemaking.  This is an important topic because every man needs a Paul, a Barnabas, and a Timothy.  The record of the impact of the righteous Grandmother Lois and godly mother Eunice on Timothy is also well documented.  Godly women are needed to train young ladies just as Paul trained Timothy and just as Barnabas held him accountable.  I have it said that only a man can teach a man to be a man and this truth also applies to women in that only a woman can teach a woman to be a woman.

How about some questions to get us going:

Who is the older, wiser person in your life that is discipling you?

Who are the accountability partners in your life?

Who can you disciple and mentor?

What are some of the goals that you have for yourself and that you would like to pass on?

This study will give you the why, the who, and the how. However, it will give an idea for some of the what, but the what will be between you and your mentor or between you and your disciple.

BIBLICAL MOTIVATION

Why is making disciples so important?  They were final words of Jesus which we know as the Great Commission: [19]”Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, [20]and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.” (Matthew 28: 19-20)
 

Jesus did. [18] As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew.  They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. 19"Come, follow me," Jesus said, "and I will make you fishers of men." [20] At once they left their nets and followed him. [21] Going on from there, he saw two other brothers, James son of Zebedee and his brother John. They were in a boat with their father Zebedee, preparing their nets. Jesus called them, [22] and immediately they left the boat and their father and followed him. (Matthew 4: 18-22)

The Apostles did.

[35] But Paul and Barnabas remained in Antioch, where they and many others taught and preached the word of the Lord. (Acts 15:35)

Barnabas took Mark and sailed for Cyprus, [40] but Paul chose Silas and left, commended by the brothers to the grace of the Lord. (Acts 15:39b – 40)

When Old Testament leaders passed the mantle of leadership properly, there was success.  When they did not, there was failure: Elijah passed on the leadership to Elisah and the number of leaders who did not pass on everything to a successor is great – just look at the good and evil kings of Israel and Judah and the good and evil judges of Israel.

 

 GETTING LAUNCHED I

Pray, Pray, Pray.  Start with prayer. Cover every session with prayer. End with prayer.
 

 GETTING LAUNCHED II

If you have the Bible on computer, look up every place in the Bible the word discipline is used and then make observations, interpretations, and applications (see above).

  1. What do I see? (Observation) - This is always the most challenging portion of Bible study. The key to doing Bible study is "training the eye to see." Seeing correctly helps you Interpret correctly and to be in the correct environment - what it is like to be in the author's shoes.
  2. What does it mean? (Interpretation) - What are the implications of what I just observed?
  3. How does it work? (Application) - Two things to look for in this process:
  • How does it work for me?
  • How does it work for others?
     
 

 GETTING LAUNCHED III

Our most important mission is to reproduce our Christianity because God is a Father and not a Grandfather.  According to Acts 1:8, we have different mission fields and we must disciple people in our mission field.  In an infantry unit, our mission field may be a squad (Jerusalem), a battalion (Judea), the division (Samaria), and the whole garrison (the uttermost parts of the world).  If you are on a ship, you can find the same every expanding areas of influence.
 

   
Step 1 – The first thing is to seek God’s leading in who will be your mentor, whom you will mentor, and what specific needs should be passed on or gained.

The Who:

Obviously, if you are a new Christian, then you will be in a position to need a mentor, but as you grow in the faith, you will be able to mentor.

Consider this passage from James 3:1 “Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.”  Yet, the advantages of being a teacher/mentor are that you will grow in the faith as you prepare to be a mentor.

So, find a person in your sphere of influence and take that person under your spiritual wings.

The What:

Hebrews 5:8 tells us what Jesus had to do in His humanity. We also need to:

[8] Although He was a son, he learned obedience from what He suffered [9] and, once made perfect, He became the source of eternal salvation for all who obey him [10] and was designated by God to be high priest in the order of Melchizedek.

We must teach others to discern right from wrong.  There will be many things that need to be taught and only you and the disciple will know.  These range from the importance of prayer and Bible study, how to be sexually pure, how to be a worker who is not ashamed of his or her works, and many more topics.
 

   
Step 2 – Then we have to develop a relationship with that person.  A saying is that people do not care how much we know until they know how much we are is very true in mentoring relationships.

The relationship is one of encouraging and confidentiality.  The relationship is one that is salt and light in a dark and dreary world.  The eventual outcome is the kind of relationship described in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.

[9] Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work:  [10] If one falls down, his friend can help him up.  But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!  [11]  Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.  But how can one keep warm alone?  [12] Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (The third strand is God in the middle of the relationship)
 

   
Step 3 – Carve out a special time to be with that person and be intentional. Remember the fact that you must be confidential in anything that is shared or you will not be able to proceed very far in the relationship.

The options to find time are unlimited.  Some discipleship groups go fly fishing, some motor cycling, some hiking, and some are in reading groups.  Whatever is decided must be a mutually interesting and must be a time that is genuine available.

Make sure there is a teaching point for each activity that you will be able to walk away with.

 

 JUST IN CASE

 Make sure that your mentee has accepted Christ as personal Savior.

There are several plans:

Campus Crusade for Christ has a plan called the 4 Spiritual Laws.

There is a plan called the Roman Road to Salvation.

This will enable you to disciple him or her and go to a higher walk with Christ. 

   
Step 4 – Constantly pray for the Holy Spirit to give you the guidance that is needed.

CAUTION

The consequences of not passing on the mantle of leadership are great.

Eli did not pass on the mantle of leadership to his sons: [12] Eli's sons were wicked men; they had no regard for the LORD. … [17] This sin of the young men was very great in the LORD's sight, for they were treating the LORD's offering with contempt.  1 Samuel 2: 12, 17.

Samuel did not pass on the mantle of leadership to his sons:  [1]  When Samuel grew old, he appointed his sons as judges for Israel.  [2] The name of his firstborn was Joel and the name of his second was Abijah, and they served at Beersheba.  [3] But his sons did not walk in his ways.  They turned aside after dishonest gain and accepted bribes and perverted justice.  1 Samuel 8: 1-3.
 

 

CONTINUING FURTHER

 Topics for study are wide and varied.
  The topics are limitless because the Christian walk has many facets.  It is interesting that there are two great commandments and they are to love God and to love our neighbor.  Because we wanted to know how to do these two, we have the 10 Commandments with the first 4 telling us how to love God and the second 6 telling us how to love our neighbor. The rest of the Bible tells us how to do these.

REMEMBER

We all want to move toward maturity. Hebrews 5 tells us two things:

  1. In verse 12, we have a need for someone to teach us
  2. In verses 13-14, we need to move from being a baby with milk to a mature Christian who has senses trained to discern good and evil.
    Here are a couple of thoughts concerning Christian maturity:
 

1

There is always something we need to learn and then be committed to put it into practice.  In fact, the entire book of James tells us how to put our Christianity into actions.
 

2

 There is always someone who can benefit from our experiences.
  Some broad topics that can be covered
  Joshua 22:5 “But be very careful to keep the commandment and the law that Moses the servant of the LORD gave you: to love the LORD your God, to walk in all his ways, to obey his commands, to hold fast to him and to serve him with all your heart and all your soul."

How to go About It.  Pick a need or pick a verse.  For Example, you may want to look at a general verse that tells how to live. Joshua 22:5 tell us to:

  1. Love the Lord
  2. Walk in His Ways
  3. Keep His Commands
  4. Hold fast to Him
  5. Serve God with our heart and soul
     
  Specific helps for working through Joshua 22:5.

1.  Love the Lord

a.  How to have a quiet time and the importance of daily devotions.

b.  Make the Lord central to your life (Matt 6:33 reminds to seek first the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness)

c.  Learn how to have a personal relationship with God.

2.  Walk in His Ways

a.  Do not turn to the right or left (Joshua 1:7)

b.  Take the narrow road because wide is the road and broad is the gate that leads to death and destruction. (Matthew 7:13)

c.  Hide God’s Word in your heart so you will not sin against Him (Psalm 119: 11)

3.  Keep His Commands

a.  Make a decision prior to going into “the real world” to be holy and follow through.
b. Go through the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7)to know what it means not to:

i. Murderii. Commit Adultery
iii. Divorce
iv. Make Oaths
v. Take Revenge
vi. Hate Your Enemy

4.  Hold fast to Him

a.  Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. (James 4:8)

b. The Lord draws near to all who call up Him, to all who call upon Him in truth. (Psalm 145:18).

5.  Serve God with our heart and soul

a.  The righteous will live by faith Habakkuk 2:4.

b.  It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man. (Psalm 118:8)
 

    There are countless of books, study guides, Sunday School lessons that can be used as teaching guides:

SUGGESTION

There are so many books and plans to help you in your study.  These 4 books are examples of what can be used as a starting point:

Kay Arthur - Lord, I want to Know You.
Rick Warren - The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth am I Here For?
John Eldredge – Wild at Heart
Beth Moore – Get out of that Pit

I hesitate to offer these suggestions because I am obviously leaving out many.  But the point is that there are many study guides that can be used in a discipleship setting.
 

  God will help us in our quest for spiritual maturity: [15] All of us who are mature should take such a view of things.  And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you.  [16] Only let us live up to what we have already attained.  [17] Join with others in following my example, brothers, and take note of those who live according to the pattern we gave you.  [18] For, as I have often told you before and now say again even with tears, many live as enemies of the cross of Christ.  [19] Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame.  Their mind is on earthly things.  [20] But our citizenship is in heaven.  And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ. Philippians 3:15-20
    You will be blessed because the teacher is taught by the student.

FURTHER STUDY

To go deeper, here are some suggestions. Below is a Bible study format for any topic of your own choosing.  Follow the suggested study and then work to answer these 3 questions:

1.  What do I see? (Observation) - This is always the most challenging portion of Bible study, which most people give only cursory attention to (unfortunately).  The key to doing Bible study is "training the eye to see." Seeing correctly helps you Interpret correctly and sto be in the correct environment - what it is like to be in the author's shoes.

2.  What does it mean? (Interpretation) - What are the implications of what I just observed?

3.  How does it work? (Application) - Two things to look for in this process:

  • How does it work for me?
  • How does it work for others?
 

 TECHNICAL P0INT

Noah Webster's Dictionary

1. (n.) One who teaches or instructs; one whose business or occupation is to instruct others; an instructor; a tutor.

2. (n.) One who instructs others in religion; a preacher; a minister of the gospel; sometimes, one who preaches without regular ordination.
 

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